Tuesday, 22 April 2014

Q+A: Life Journey

This is the last post for the FAQ series

FAQOoooh, I want to play. Are you done having kids? You make the cutest kids and I am always curious how people decide when their family is complete. What are you planning for your 10th wedding anniversary next year? I am always curious if people celebrate big wedding milestones. How do you like Canada? Do you guys ever consider moving back to England? or Italy? When are you coming to visit your sis in MD – obviously that's more of a personal question :)

Oh what made you decide to come out of the dark? I must say I love seeing pics of your adorable family and I am glad that you share more, I am just curious what changed. by Pegster

Pegster you make me smile always. Thank you for your questions.

Are you done having kids?

When we first got married hubby and I agree that we will have two children because I wanted one child and he wanted three so the right compromise was having two kids. I love being a mother of two and though it’s hard to combine many things, when I look at my lovely children together my uterus craves for more children. But right now we’re more than happy with two kiddos. That said, I know that in this life mai dire mai {never say never}.

What are you planning for your 10th wedding anniversary next year (2015)?

God’s willing I would like us to renew our vows and take the children on a grand holiday in Singapore, Malaysia, Indonesia, Thailand and Bali. I would love that but I wonder if financially would be feasible.

 How do you like Canada?

I love Canada so much it’s feels like home to me. I’ve settled in so well. I have my writer’s group, a friend with whom I’m thinking to start a project with. My mummy friend with whom I discuss all my paranoid motherhood worries and we click because she feels similar to me regarding many things on the journey as a mother.

However, the weather doesn’t make it the ideal place to live. It’s snowing in April and I know that in Europe real spring is shaking it blossom leafs off. My husband jokingly said that if it snows in June he’s taking his passport.

Do you guys ever consider moving back to England? or Italy?

Right now, I feel a little sad when I think about leaving what I have here in Canada to move to Britain {England} or Italy. I love these two countries so much and I miss our families but what I had there wasn’t nothing compared to the real life I’m living here.

The other day my husband asked me “What if you weren’t working in Britain, would you still like to live here?”

“I don’t think I like living here because I don’t work, it’s because there is more in my life here.” I answered. Living in Italy, then Britain was stressful. In Italy I always felt a little bit out of place. I loved living in solitude. In Britain I was on the go-go-go university, work and I had do be realistic about life so my writing was waiting on the bench. I believe if I lived in Italy or Britain the stress of everyday life would hit me more than living in Saskatchewan. Though the weather is not very nice seven months over twelve, I can’t see ourselves in Britain or Italy for a long while.

However, we want the best for our children so we might move back to Britain to be close to family. We must decide where we definitely want to settle by the time the children are school going age, by 2016. Also I like AOI’s little English accent and living in Britain will maintain that :).

When are you coming to visit your sis in MD?

I miss my sister and my little nephew so much but I can’t set a definite day when it comes to visiting her. I pray, cross my fingers and toes that God helps me find the way to come visit her this summer.

Oh what made you decide to come out of the dark?

I remember the very first post I wrote here. I was sitting in a room at my in-laws’ house after Christmas celebration, shy about sharing my thoughts but those thoughts were getting too much for me to keep them still in my diary. Starting the journey towards motherhood I felt I needed a platform on which I could get real answers to my many questions.

When I published that first post decided to keep my real name and full identity hidden. I didn't mind sharing pieces of my features but my name and full face were going to be top secret. I didn't want my family to know that I am the one behind the blog. I was so shy and being anonymous and writing under under MsBabyPlan was what I needed to come out from my shell. I never believed that people would take their time to read my random thoughts. Then I started to read other blogs about amazing people {including you} who are bold to share everything about themselves. Their names, their children’s name and according to me that helped them live life to its fullest. I was inspired by many of you and slowly I came out of my shell. 

Three years ago I wrote

I keep my identity ‘undercover’ because I know that there is a freedom in doing so. I can write anything I like and my family can feel protected. However, that freedom can be a backlash. From day one I was so thorough that I used pseudonym for my online accounts. But now I am getting attached to many of you, and sometimes I want to show you a smile on my face or share my real name with the world. My overly protective attitude seem to prevent that and I feel like I am pushing myself into a trap. But I know I can come out from there.

I didn't want my family to know that I am the one behind the blog, plus I didn't want them to think that I was indulging myself online. I guess I was affected by the comment “Blogging about your personal life is just indulgence.” For me, the word indulgence in that phrase had a negative connotation.

The idea to share my name and more of my life started about two years. This year I took the bold decision to go all the way, to reveal my real name. I’m so happy about the decision because it really shows how blogging is helping me become the bold person I want to be. I love my name so much and sharing it means a lot to me. I still don’t share my children and husband’s name people that decision is up to them {unless I’ve shared it without realising it}. Also the more freely I share the better I get at my craft. Both my husband and I can see how much my photography as improved since I started blogging. When I update our everyday life I can easy print those pictures into books for my children when they’re older and would like to know what we did in our everyday life, so instead of writing my journal offline, I write them online to inspire myself and hopefully inspire others to enjoy the little things that make us happy.

From the start I knew that blogging is NOT just indulgence but a tool to get things out of the shell. And I hope some people can understand that blogging can be therapeutic

It has been for me and along that journey I’m getting to know amazing people who I pray to meet one day. This is a such a lovely community to be part of. Thanks each one of you for making it special for me.

Monday, 21 April 2014

Our Everyday Life: April Snow

april snowAOI enjoys the falling snow after a playdate

Week 16 spring teased as a little. It wasn’t going to stay for long, in fact won’t be here until May. Yet, as I write this my husband and the children are dozing meanwhile the birds are singing outside, in the April slight cold morning.

Can’t imagine that last Friday it was snowing like early winter. In Saskatchewan, from the very first year of our arrival {2011}, I never allow myself to hope for proper spring until May.

I didn't take daily notes of our life happenings, there was no need, I’ve decided to write whatever I remember as the days go by.

Monday we all went to the swimming pool as a family. It was TOI’s first swim, he looked adorable in the water with his surprised expression and sometimes shy smiles. Meanwhile AOI looked like a pro

swimming time

Tuesday we didn't go to French playgroup, instead I stayed home to organise few things. In the evening I had a friend over for dinner and we talked about organising an event dedicated to women. Wednesday I had a training session at the gym, I wasn’t very surprised to find out that I'm completely out of shape, I may look like I'm losing the baby belly but my stamina and is at its lowest. I’m thinking about hiring a trainer to take my endurance to a sufficient level.

Thursday we went to the local playgroup and I thought everything went fast because it wasn't even eleven thirty and people were getting ready to go home. Friday I went to the gym as soon as TOI fell asleep for his midmorning nap, I didn't work out very much. Saturday morning I went to a class called physique, it’s what I need if I’m not going to pay for a personal trainer. In the evening husband suggested we order a pizza and go sit by river for our dinner. So we did. Sunday we went to church, in the afternoon we spent the time enjoying family time and at one point I told AOI follow me outside to play in the drizzling rain and muddy puddles.

singing in the rain copySinging in the rain, once back home she ran to her daddy and exclaimed “We had such a lovely time in the rain.” All the excitement for just staying out in the yard for ten minutes, the beauty of unplugged childhood.

More stills from our week

livingroomEnjoying our newly re-arranged living room, there is more space in this layout daddy came up with. Kids can play freely and we can work with our laptops in our laps.

aoi and toiShe’s his hero

aoi and daddy spelling timeAOI is interested in spelling the letters in the words she sees so daddy is taking time to make a book with animal names for her. This particular morning, the first thing she asked her daddy was to do some spelling with her

aoi and daddyAOI wanted to be near by daddy most part of the week. Sitting and reading while he worked on his laptop

aoiPlaying with his face as he wrote on his laptop

beauty and chaosTOI sleeping beautifully among the chaos of the living room

morning rainFriday morning rain, a toddler watching the garbage truck doing its job in the distance

family life sceneThe dinning table, another well used place. A father and daughter checking their in house garden

mummy and childrenJust chilling with the kiddos

toddler feetDetails of a toddler’s feet as she learns to spell.

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Hope your week was good and it has started well

Sunday, 20 April 2014

16/52

Happy Easter to everyone one.

AOI week 16-52

TOI week 16

sibling love week 16

"A portrait of my children, once a week, every week, in 2014." (portraits captured with Canon 6D)

AOI: With her favourite hairstyle, that expression on her face, one of the many that makes me laugh from the belly. Sitting in that tiny pram for Elefante, her baby best friend. She’s a born comedian.

TOI: chewing his fingers, his favourite sport

AOI and TOI: Last week, he was lying there chewing his fingers, big sister comes along takes his hand out of his mouth then says in the most adorable voice “Don’t eat your hand”. See her index scolding him, she’s such the big sister. He loves her so, I can tell.

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Linking with Jodi

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